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Annual Maintenance Check: Part 14 – Affair Proofing

April 26, 2020   

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Discussion Questions

  1. Which of these points had the most impact in your mind: the soil of an affair, the three phases, or the affair proofing steps?
  2. How have you seen this play out in your experience (personally or observed)?
  3. Have you discussed boundary setting? If so, what boundaries have you created that might be helpful to others?
  4. Has this talk helped you identify any vulnerabilities in your defenses? Explain.

Annual Maintenance Check: Part 13 – Cleared for Takeoff – Intimacy in Marriage

April 19, 2020   

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Discussion Questions

  1. Wife/husband do you understand the three points Mike & Patricia shared that wives/husbands need to know? (Points listed below) What question do you have about these for your husband/wife that might help you understand?
  2. Which of these ideas is most difficult for you to embrace?
  3. What has been your experience with these truths in your marriage?

Three Things Husband/Wives Need to Know and Embrace

For the husbands

  • Be a companion not a hookup.
  • Cherish without ulterior motives.
  • Use your words.

For the wives

  • Value sex as a vital component, not an accessory.
  • Your husband feels emotionally close through physical closeness.
  • We like to be pursued sometimes as well.

Annual Maintenance Check: Part 12 – Parenting from the Same Page

 April 5, 2020   

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Discussion Questions

  1. What would a “vision” for parenting include?  What words would you use to describe the goal?
  2. Parents, what is, or was, your area of greatest disagreement when it comes to parenting? How have you worked those out?
  3. What are some principles for parenting, in your view?
  4. How does/could viewing your role as disciplemaker change your approach to parenting?

Annual Maintenance Check: Part 11 – Marriage on Purpose

 March 27, 2020   

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Discussion Questions

  1. What are some unique characteristics of your marriage that the Lord might use?
  2. How are you, or could you be, serving Christ together?
  3. What are you, or can you be, doing as a couple to give of yourselves to friends, extended family, neighbors, and other members of the larger community?
  4. How do you think an outward focused marriage can benefit your relationship?

Annual Maintenance Check: Part 10 – You Gotta Have Faith

March 21, 2020   

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Discussion Questions

  1. Are we on the same page on spiritual matters (prayer, giving of time, talents, or treasure, church attendance, community connectedness, time in the Word, etc)?
  2. Ask your spouse; how can I encourage you in your relationship with the LORD?
  3. How can we abide in Christ together? In what ways can we blend our spiritual love languages*, and learn new languages?*Song, acts of service, nature, solitude, ritual/tradition, study, giving/gratitude

Annual Maintenance Check: Part 9 – Crisis Management – Conflict in Marriage

 February 23, 2020   

Discussion Questions

  1. What do you fight about? Why? How often? What is the typical outcome?
  2. How have you, or could you, employ the “conflict defusers” we heard about today?
  3. What other strategies or principles have helped you navigate conflict?

Annual Maintenance Check: Part 8 – Communication – Speaking in Strange Tongues

February 16, 2020   

Discussion Questions

  1. How are you different in your communication style? How have these differences shaped your relationship, for better or worse?
  2. How could you, or have you, applied some of today’s principles to your communication?
  3. How would you like your spouse to communicate with you?
  4. What are one or two communication skills you’d like to improve at?

Annual Maintenance Check: Part 7 – Wonderfully Made – Navigating Personality Differences

February 9, 2020   

Discussion Questions

  1. Do you think you have a good understanding of your spouse’s strengths, weaknesses, desires, and aspirations? If yes, how has this helped?  If not, how has this hurt?
  2. How can personality styles can conflict or complement, in finances, child-rearing, managing the home, spiritual matters, vacation planning, family relationships?
  3. Why were you attracted to one another in the first place? What do you like and admire most about each other?

Annual Maintenance Check: Part 6 – Your Greatest Enemy – Selfishness

February 2, 2020   .  

Discussion Questions

  1. Read Philippians 2:1-18.  Is this reality reflected in increasing measure in your home?
  2. In what specific ways have you either acted or thought selfishly recently?
  3. Share a time that selfishness caused serious turbulence, or a near crash in your marriage?
  4. What things do you do to kill off selfishness in yourself and its effects on your marriage?

Annual Maintenance Check: Part 5 – Do You Have a Flight Plan?

 January 19, 2020   

Discussion Questions

  1. How would you want others to describe your marriage? What words would you desire to hear?
  2. Are you floating through married life without direction, or have you considered that God has uniquely joined the two of you for a specific purpose?
  3. How might having a “flight plan” for your marriage help you grow together, provide clarity and tenacity, and give you strength against temptation as a couple?