Meeting of the Waters – Part 3

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Meeting of the Waters – Parts 1 & 2

A series on the journey to marriage oneness, given at Reston Bible Church’s HomeFront couples fellowship.  March 2018





Part 1

Part 2

Upcoming Marriage Booster event

Join me this Friday, February 2, at Reston Bible Church where I’ll be moderating a panel discussion on cultivating a safe harbor for communication in yourself, your marriage, and your home.

Registration is free online.

Marriage Booster: Safe Harbor from Reston Bible Church on Vimeo.



Shabbat – God’s Gift of Rest

A talk given to Parent’s and Jr. High Students at Reston Bible Church on December 6, 2017

Gift of Rest


Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength. – Mark 12:30

When we talked about loving God with our heart we referenced our personality and passions. That’s pretty deep. When we talk about loving God with our soul, that’s deeper still because our soul is the innermost part of who we are. It is used as a synonym for life, our life, our essence. It’s the part God created to last for eternity. Sadly when sin entered the world it separated our soul, our life, from God’s presence. We are eternally dissatisfied until our soul finds rest in Him. Why? Because before we accepted Christ our soul was enslaved to sin. We were longing for Him, for a perfect leader in this Quest called life. After we know Jesus our souls can rest because we have “returned to the shepherd and guardian of our souls” (1 Peter 2:25).

King David was Israel’s Poet King. He often spoke about His soul, “my soul is greatly dismayed…I will lift up my soul…my soul may sing praise…my soul will rejoice…” King David knew there was more to him than his mind and body. My soul is my immaterial essence, my life breath. It is that part of me that can be separated from Him if I choose to put myself on the throne of my life. As a Christian I desire a makeover that will reform my soul so that I can love and put God at the center of everything in my life. God has promised this makeover in Romans 8:29. “For those God foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the likeness of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brothers.” Everyday God is reshaping me to resemble Jesus and that includes my soul.

Psalm 63:1-5
Matthew 10:28
Ezekiel 18:4
Luke 16:19-31
Mark 8:36
Matthew 16:26
3 John 1:2

(Excerpt from Extreme Makeover: Spiritual Edition, a curriculum by Michael J. Meyers)

The Lord is close to the brokenhearted

Part 3 on loving God with the heart

“Love the Lord your God with all your heart…”

“So what’s on your heart this week?” Hopefully you have taken some time during our study to reflect on how to use your interests and passions for God. But what about when you see things in yourself that fall short of God’s standard? Do we assume we’re a lost cause and of no use to God? We cannot hide our good qualities or our failures from Him. He “alone knows every human heart” (1 Kings 8:39). But be of good cheer, the ungodly things I find in my heart bring me to Him in a special way, a humble way. I wish I could bring to Him a “Great Commandment Christian,” fully assembled and ready to serve, but I came broken and, though I’m no longer a slave to sin, my flesh still fights against my makeover. When I recognize this and grieve my sin then I am in a position for God to transform my heart. Yes, it’s uncomfortable, but the Lord promises that He is near to the brokenhearted.

In Psalm 147 we are reminded that it is fitting to praise God. The best way to praise God is to think about His actions and his attributes. The Psalm tells us:

God heals the brokenhearted. He names the stars.
He sends rain to the earth.
He delights in those who fear him.
He has unfailing love.
He sends us his protection.
He shares his commands with us.
He controls all nature.
He communicates his word to us!
Praise the Lord.

Loving God has many facets, praising Him for all He has done is one of them. Aligning our lifestyles with His word is another. What kind of heart does God want me to have? A pure heart, a clean heart, a kind heart, and of course a heart that loves Him above all else. The kind of heart that Jesus displayed for us.

Have a blessed Thanksgiving!


Psalm 34:18
Matthew 11:28
Psalm 147:3
Isaiah 61:1
Luke 4:8
1 Peter 2:24

Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength. – Mark 12:30

Wisdom – God’s Operating System for Your Heart

(Excerpt from Extreme Makeover: Spiritual Edition, a curriculum by Michael J. Meyers)

About five years ago I started using a Mac laptop instead of my old PC. One thing that prompted that switch was the problems I was having with viruses on my PC. As it turns out, the Mac operating system is much less prone to virus problems. It does a better job on its own, without the expense of extra virus protection services, of keeping out unwanted and damaging material that could slow down or freeze up my machine. 

Last time we talked about the good passions and desires that God has put in our hearts, let’s call them the pre-loaded software. We also talked about guarding our hearts from storing up ungodly things, let’s call them malware or viruses, that corrupt our God-given passions and desires. The human heart was made for loving and glorifying God. Sin has corrupted that heart, but by faith in Jesus we can have our hard-drive (heart) wiped clean of sin and reinstalled with God’s programs, so that it is free to function as it was intended.

The problem is that we still live in a sinful world where there are new viruses around every corner. That’s where God’s heart operating system comes into play. Wisdom. It comes from God and is the atmosphere in which all of your pre-loaded heart software works best. It is also highly resistant to viruses and will prevent unwanted items from piling up in your heart and slowing down or freezing up your system. If we, or our kids, want to love God with ALL our heart, then we need the right operating system…wisdom. “Whatever else you get, get wisdom” (Prov. 4:7) and we get wisdom by downloading it from the living and active word of God.

Proverbs 2:1-11
Jeremiah 33:3
James 1:5
Psalm 19:7
Proverbs 10:8
Proverbs 16:23
Proverbs 2:10


Heart Check

(Excerpt from Extreme Makeover: Spiritual Edition, a curriculum by Michael J. Meyers)

“Love the Lord your God with all your heart…” Mark 12:30

When Jesus gave the greatest commandment, He was responding to a scribe who was asking the most important question for someone who believes in the all-powerful God of the Bible. What does God want from me? Jesus was glad to answer. He quoted from Deuteronomy 6:5. The answer was simple but profound…if you want to know what God really wants from you, the answer is love – practical, everything I have and am, love – and it starts with your heart, the new heart God created in you the moment you trusted in Jesus.

The Father has created each of our hearts differently, with different passions,different likes and dislikes. He intended each of these to be used in love for serving Him and others. But our hearts are not a closed loop system. Things come in and out of our heart. Jesus teaches us in Luke 6:45 that, “For out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks.” The abundance of the heart includes both the good things that God has placed there as well as the things, either good or evil, that we have “stored up” there. This is why it is so important to both know what is in our hearts already (Psalm 139:23), so we can ask God to remove anything that doesn’t glorify Him and store up good things there instead, but also to guard our hearts (Proverbs 4:23) from letting in those things we don’t want to store up.

In order to keep our hearts in tune for loving God, we should do this check-up regularly in prayer and in the Word. How is your heart this week? Let’s do a self-check first and then we can help those around us to do the same. David was man after God’s own heart. This doesn’t mean he was sinless, but that he had a heart fully devoted to God. Let’s ask with him this week, “Create in me a clean heart, O God.” (Psalm 51:10)

1 Kings 8:61
Joshua 22:5
Psalm 37:4
Psalm 57:7
Luke 6:45
Psalm 51:10

Marriage on Mission

Upcoming Events

Hello Friends,

I am having the opportunity to speak next weekend at both Reston Bible Church’s Marriage Booster being held October 13th, as well as the Band of Brothers Men’s Breakfast being held at Christian Fellowship Church in Ashburn, VA the following morning.  Links for the registration to each are listed below.  Would love to see you there. Should be a good time of fellowship and conversation.

October 13th Marriage Booster –  (Registration is FREE)


Band of Brother’s Breakfast –